The parents have just asked you to babysit for the very first time. It is a moment filled with both excitement and a healthy dose of nerves. This is a huge sign of their trust in you and a major step in your relationship with your niece or nephew.
This is your chance to have some amazing one on one bonding time. But how can you make sure everything goes smoothly, so that you, the baby, and the parents all feel confident and happy? The secret is all in the preparation. A little planning can turn a night of nerves into a night of fun.
What is the most important thing to do before the parents leave?
Direct Answer: The most important thing is to do a thorough “handoff” with the parents. This means getting all of the critical information you need written down in one place, so you are not trying to remember everything in the moment.
Evidence: Your confidence will come from being prepared. Before the parents walk out the door, make sure you have a simple list with these key details:
- Your “Peace of Mind” Contact List
The key to a confident night is having a simple contact list ready. Jot down the parents’ cell phones, the pediatrician’s number, and a trusted local contact for emergencies. This is your peace of mind, allowing you to relax and focus on the fun. - The Baby’s Schedule: Write down the baby’s general routine. What time is the next bottle or feeding? What are their sleepy cues? Is there a special routine for bedtime?
- A Quick “How To” Session: If there is anything you are unsure about, ask for a quick tutorial. This could be how to work the bottle warmer, the best way to burp them, or how to give any necessary medicine.
- The “What If” Information: Ask where the first aid kit is kept. Confirm if there are any allergies or health concerns. Most importantly, ask “What is the best way to soothe them if they get really upset?”
How can I make sure the baby is safe while I am in charge?
Direct Answer: Your number one job as a babysitter is to maintain a safe environment for the baby. This means following all of the safety rules the parents have in place and being watchful at all times.
Evidence: Keeping a baby safe is mostly about following a few very important and non negotiable rules of infant care.
- Practice Safe Sleep: You must always place the baby on their back to sleep. The crib or bassinet should be completely empty, with no blankets, pillows, bumpers, or soft toys.
- Never Leave Them Unattended: Never, not even for a second, leave a baby alone on a high surface like a changing table, a bed, or a sofa. If you need to step away, put them in a safe place like their crib or a playpen first.
- Be Aware of Choking Hazards: Pay attention to the environment and make sure there are no small objects within the baby’s reach that they could put in their mouth.
- When in Doubt, Call: Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, if the baby seems unwell, or if you are just not sure what to do, do not hesitate to call the parents. It is always better to be safe.
How do I handle my own nerves?
Direct Answer: Feeling nervous is completely normal, and it just shows how much you care. The best way to handle your nerves is to be prepared and to focus on the fun of connecting with your niece or nephew.
Evidence: This is your first time putting all the core principles of great aunthood into practice, all on your own. My book, Auntie of the Year, is all about becoming a source of warmth, comfort, and security for your niece or nephew. Babysitting is simply your chance to be that safe and loving presence, one-on-one. Focus on those fundamentals: be present, be calm, and connect. Your confidence in that role is what will make the night a success.
Frequently Asked Questions
What should I do if the baby will not stop crying?
First, run through a mental checklist. Are they hungry? Do they need a clean diaper? Are they too hot or cold? Are they tired? Try the classic soothing techniques like swaddling, shushing, or gentle rocking. If you have tried everything and are concerned, it is always okay to call the parents for their advice.
Is it okay to have a friend over while I am babysitting?
For your first time, it is definitely best not to. The parents are trusting you with their baby. You should not bring anyone else into their home without getting their clear and explicit permission first.
Should I clean the house before the parents get home?
While it is always a nice gesture to tidy up any toys you played with or to wash any bottles you used, you are not expected to be a house cleaner. Your primary job is to keep their child safe, happy, and loved. They will be most grateful for that.
